I recall a radio question maybe 15 years ago and it wanted people to call in
with their most lame excuse for being late or missing work.

I came up with, "Well, my shoestring broke and it took me two hours to find
thread to sow it back together." and won.

The point is that maybe the questions aren't the right ones and enable the
excuses rather than understand the explanations. Such is the continued
downing of America. Easier to say "I got here on time, why didn't you"
which automatically requires an excuse, rather than the more subtle and
amiable "You know, if there's a problem in the future with you getting here
on time, I'd be more than willing to stop by and pick you up."

Today's world is leaning towards the former and leaving the latter in the
dust.

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Roger W. Norman
SirMusic Studio

"Blind Joni" wrote in message
...
Here we go. I told you it wasn't clear until it's clear

The meaningless consequence of choice without reason is chaos.

I didn't say without reason..I said in spite of reason. Could be the same
choice.


But it's good for those who wish to make choices without having made
decisions based on a comparative evaluation of the alternatives because
it
allows them to have absolutely no accountability simply because there is
no
accountability. I

Not in a life context of integrity..just the opposite..choice leaves you
with
responsibility..if you are responsible..I said nothing of accountability.

How would it be, John, if you or I made choices without taking into
considerations the reasons to make those choices,

Happens all the time.

Doesn't choice
ALWAYS take reasons into consideration, whilst decisions can be made
regardless of the possible choices?

I can choose a car without knowing anything about it..no reason except "I
want
it"

Methinks you have it backwards, and
more's the worse because you almost make it sound plausibl

People use reasons as excuses for unresponsible behaviour.."I was late
because...I don't have the money because...I can't give you what I
promised
because...etc..etc.
Believe me..it took quite a while to see this but it makes a lot of things
more
workable for me..YMMV



John A. Chiara
SOS Recording Studio
Live Sound Inc.
Albany, NY
www.sosrecording.net
518-449-1637

Easier to say "I got here on time, why didn't you"
which automatically requires an excuse, rather than the more subtle and
amiable "You know, if there's a problem in the future with you getting here
on time, I'd be more than willing to stop by and pick you up."

Today's world is leaning towards the former and leaving the latter in the
dust.


I agree .


John A. Chiara
SOS Recording Studio
Live Sound Inc.
Albany, NY
www.sosrecording.net
518-449-1637

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On 2004-12-10 (BlindJoni) said:
Easier to say "I got here on time, why didn't you"
which automatically requires an excuse, rather than the more
subtle and amiable "You know, if there's a problem in the future
with you getting here on time, I'd be more than willing to stop by
and pick you up."
Today's world is leaning towards the former and leaving the latter
in the dust.
I agree .
I agree but don't see any reason to be so politically correct about
it. AFter all who bears the responsibility of arranging to arrive on
time? IF that means arranging for reliable transport as in "Hey call
me if you need a ride" making that offer might be nice, but it's up to
somebody else.

tHis old blind man has to arrange to take the bus streetcar or call a
taxi. IN most cases I can arrive at an appointment on time. iT might
mean arriving early because i have to take into account the problems
with the public transport system etc. I don't happen to tolerate
perpetually late people well.
I'm also politically incorrect enough to discourage a ham radio friend
from attending radio club meetings because he insists on dragging
along his wife and rug rats. The rug rats are all under school age
and are not well disciplined. I've told him on more than one occasion
that I didn't arrange for my lady and I to drive 30 miles to a club
meeting to listen to his kids scream.



Richard Webb,
Electric SPider Productions, New Orleans, La.
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