George M. Middius said:

Of course, the downside to that is that he tends to be rather aloof,
which is OK with me. He takes affection on his own terms and doesn't
deign to come when called unless HE wills it.

That goes without saying.
If your cat would behave any different, it'd be a dog.

Don't be so quick to generalize. Aloofness varies by the individual
kittycat. One of mine is aloof, but the other one is almost doglike in some
ways.


Of course, each cat is an individual.
However, what Dave wrote is true: when a cat doesn't want to do
something, you can't do anything about that.

--
Sander de Waal
" SOA of a KT88? Sufficient. "