"nmstevens" wrote in message
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"Robert Morein" wrote in message
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Robert Morein wrote:

"SAIL LOCO" wrote in message
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I'm not into this sort of generic "feel-goodism" -- whoever said that
just because somebody gave you a ticket out of the womb that that
necessarily means that you're a great guy? Maybe you are, maybe you're
not. Maybe you should feel good about yourself. Maybe you shouldn't.
That very much depends on who you are and how you've been behaving.
Maybe your entire life needs a major overhaul before you start feeling
good about yourself and you ought to start today.

If I were to endow my children with any quality that I think is
important -- I would say that it is far more important that they know
themselves -- than that they "feel good" about themselves -- because
if you know yourself, you'll know whether you *should* feel good about
yourself.

NMS

Neal,
Very well put. I did not mean to convey that meaningless positivism is
a point of good parenting. But what I got from the thread, with all the male
rage that came out, was that the emphasis is on the wrong thing. Perhaps I
would feel differently if I had been witness to more difficult children.

There was not a single use of the word "love" in the thread.